I woke up this morning at 4:27 with a series of excuses running through mind. Yesterday was not a good day. It felt like I was on a conveyor belt of people being upset with me because I had included a man in a discussion that THEY did not want to be included in the KNOW. I spent the evening rolling over the events of the day and tried to step back from the situation and see it from a different perspective, but I kept coming back to this single feeling like I had done something wrong. So I went straight into justification mode- why I needed to talk to him. How could I make it better? Did I really need that hassle? I went on for hours in my head until I fell asleep.
Then when I woke this morning with this same worry on my mind I thought that is enough. I laid there in bed and called up my inner Healer and asked her “How do I heal this situation so that I can keep my integrity in my relationships and keep my contracts happy?” My healing fixer was very clear – Stay the course because you were guided by Spirit to talk to those people. Not everyone is going to like each other and that is their problem. They are paying you to be the professional, not the schoolyard MOM.
When I went to my contract’s office this morning, the very person I was not supposed to talk to be because no one likes them was across the street having coffee. He saw me and waved. I met him half way and he had bought me a cup of coffee. Then he said: “I know people don’t like me and they think I don’t know things because I am old and retired. I wanted to say thank you for taking the time ask my opinion. It may cause you some grief with your contract and for that I am sorry, but I wanted to say thank you for valuing an old man.”
That right there did it for me. I told him that once I finished up with the preliminary narrative I would like him to look at it and give me his final input before I sent it off. He smiled and said he would be happy to.
NOW I had to go and face the wall of faces watching me talk to the old man in the street. I walked in and I was instantly hit with “Why were you talking to him? What did he have to say?” and so on… It was truly like being in a schoolyard with a group of middle schoolers. I simply replied to them that the older man had thanked me for being nice to him and he bought me a cup of coffee. I also shared with them that I would be letting him provide input on the final narrative of the proposal.
You would have thought that I told them that Jimmy kissed Sally on the swings. The drama that unfolded was amazing and completely unprofessional. I finally asked them what in all the world that man could have done to make them expend this much energy to prove that they don’t like him.
The reply was a series of fears that the man would steal their idea or tell someone about their project. Nothing about the project was a trade secret nor was it confidential. In fact, it is likely going to appear on a Federal website in about two months. I finally asked them when the man had ever done any of the things they were fearful he would do. Their answer NEVER. Then I asked when he had ever threatened to take their intellectual property, the answer NEVER.
Finally, I asked them what was so scary about this man. They all said something about him being the wealthiest man in town or that he had a lot of power. So I followed up with questions asking if he had ever used his money, influence, or power to hurt them. The answer NO.
I pushed further asking them if they would be open to inviting him into their planning process because he had life experience, wealth and a lot of community influence. I pointed out that he might actually be their best ally for this project.
The lesson in all of this is listen to your HEALER SPIRIT. Just because you are told to be afraid of the old man through rumors and innuendos does not mean he is not your ally. Honor those with experience because they bring the wisdom of lessons learned to the table. That alone can save you a million dollars.